How to control your emotions in tense situations


Do you wish there was a way to maintain control over your emotions and communicate effectively, even in difficult situations?

If so, the three-step process of flatlining your emotions, taking nothing personally, and asking questions of intrigue may be just what you need to improve your relationship.

Step one: Flatline your emotionsWhen you’re in a heightened emotional state, it’s easy to get caught up in the moment and say things you don’t mean. By practicing emotional flatlining, you’ll be able to maintain control over your emotions and prevent them from escalating. Take a deep breath, focus on your breath and allow your emotions to settle down. This allows you to think clearly and rationally, and respond to the situation from a more centered place.

Step two: Take nothing personallyWhen your partner is upset or angry, it’s easy to take their emotions personally and feel attacked. But the truth is, most of the time their emotions have nothing to do with you. By taking nothing personally, you’ll be able to see the situation more objectively and respond in a way that is more compassionate and understanding. Remember that it’s not about you, it’s about what they’re going through.

Step three: Ask questions of intrigueAsking questions of intrigue is a great way to show your partner that you’re interested in their perspective and that you want to understand where they’re coming from. By asking open-ended questions like “It seems like you feel X, can you tell me more about that?” you’re creating a space for your partner to share their thoughts and feelings. This can help diffuse tension and create a more positive and productive conversation.

By following these three steps, you can improve your communication with your partner and navigate difficult situations with ease. Remember to flatline your emotions, take nothing personally, and ask questions of intrigue to create a deeper, more meaningful connection with your partner.  

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