Yes, it is bs. If you do everything the same exact way you are pretty horrible about reading a room and managing your emotions. At a friends house one day a dr was simply miserable at communicating with my friends 2 year old son. He lacked compassion, calmness and patience. I can guarantee you that if he spoke that way to patients he would be fired within a few weeks.
I speak to my children completely different than I speak to my clients. I have fun and bull shit with some of my close friends in a manner I never would with elderly people I first meet. If you think everything needs to be a struggle and you have to be hard and tough in every aspect of life you are missing out on so much of what the joy of life is about.
You are not going to watch a movie with your kids all amped up and ready to get fired up like you would before a work out.
Sometimes sayings get tossed around so much that we figure to actually take a few minutes to analyze what is being said.
The point of all this is that if you want to be a dynamic, authentic compassionate man, leader or family member know what the situation is and not only be able to read your situation but also your emotional engagement level in that situation.
Here is an easy way to show up from a place of authenticity and presence.
Before you say anything in a situation watch and listen.
You will be amazed how your intuition and senses will pick up way more by you watching instead of immediately interjecting.
Give space to allow yourself to be the powerfully calm presence in the room that creates the energy – not follows along with whatever was there.
